Interview with a Playa: The Playa Chronicles

Can we be bluntly honest here for just a few minutes, and talk about "The Game".  No I not talking about the how the Seahawks blasted the New Orleans last Sunday.  I'm talking about the dating game and a few plays that are bona fide touchdowns. I'm not talking about the typical short yardage play, which can get you but so far.  I mean the bread and butter plays that are past down from one play maker to another play maker, father to son, and uncle to nephew.  The plays kept secret from the women, for fear of having your player card revoked and destroyed among his peers.  I'm talking about the Art of the Pick-Up.

Now I'm no pick-up artist, player, balla, or man whore by know means (stop rolling your eyes) But I have friends that consider themselves to be, and on occasion they have been willing to share a few of their skills with me in the midst of hunting for their next piece. I've been told many a way to size up a woman from the fellas.  Everything from does her outfit match and up to date, is her hairdo tight and popin, is she lady like or mannish and etc. But now advise has seem the most interesting and the most useful as the one given by a very wise old friend of mine from Cleveland’s East side, "Shut up and pay attention, she'll tell you what she wants you to say. That's how you get her number."

When you meet a women for the first time, let her talk.  Get her to talk and let her talk as much as she wants and listen to the things she talks about. He told me the more she talks about in that first encounter the more you are just like her.  If she's a music lover, guess what so are you.  If she's in to holistic stuff, you want to know more about it.  If she's about family, tell her how important family is to you. If she's a Browns fan (God bless her), be sympathetic (very sympathetic) and tell her how truly dedicated a Browns fan you are.

   

It took me a while to understand exactly what he meant by what he was saying, but over the years I picked up on it. I wasn't listening to the women; I wasn't following their lead.  I was always thinking my next move, or my next line to get what I wanted.  Too worried about being smooth, not looking foolish or saying the wrong thing.  As I put his words to wisdom into my personal and professional life, I realized that we as men often aren't paying attention.  We may become to focused on the next line, the next rebuttal or the next move and completely miss the message.  I know the source of the message may have been questionable, and its purpose twisted, but the message was very valid. I guess you can learn a thing or two from an old playa.